I have a friend who is constantly flirting with everyone, not in a sexual way, that's just the way she is; flirty. If she was in a relationship would her personality make her a cheater all the time?
I think the best definition can be adapted from the all about life changes website. They say martial infidelity is "sexual unfaithfulness to a spouse" so that could be translated to infidelity is sexual unfaithfulness to a partner/boyfriend/girlfriend etc.
This definition only includes sexual acts though, personally I would consider it cheating if my partner snogged someone (except as a joke/pre-approved dare etc). I know he would too. He has even said that kissing, except peck on lips/cheek would be cheating. Hugging and quick pecks are OK.
Back to the point, infidelity is bad because it involves many 'bad' actions/ideas. It can include:
- lying
- taking advantage of other peoples weaknesses
- being manipulative
- being selfish
- taking risks
- faking/pretending
A lot of books and films suggest cheating is very common and almost glamorous. It's dangerous and exciting. Yet a lot of them end up with trouble. You rarely see people cheating and getting away with it through the whole story.
The possible reasons for cheating could be the personal need for more fulfillment than your current partner can give (i suggest you take a look back to week 4 if that's the case) or simply for the thrill. Neither are good reasons in my view. I guess another reason could be to make your partner dump you but I would prefer to do my dumping or be dumped honestly and with dignity.
Other interesting links:
Channel 4 sex and relationships - looks at all sides and what to do if you have cheated, been cheated on or the 3rd person.
BBC Sci/tech -suggests infidelity is natural
I'll leave you with some proper break up food, just in case you've been cheated on!!
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